When a person has lost his way, either to an eating disorder, substance abuse, and/or depression, should that person enter into a program which relieves them of daily responsibilities so that they can focus on their mental health, or should they continue in their home environment and integrate mental health treatment into their life? This question has no answer and it is surely not one size fits all. To take the question further, could it harm people to go to a residential setting in that this is a regressive experience, and as such, it could make the re-integration into adult responsibilities more challenging? On the other hand, to leave a person in their home setting, then the triggers remain and they may not be capable of re-booting their lives. In the days of “evidence-based medicine” there is no evidence for either approach. We swim in the dark, hoping that with support, patients can get better. Our level of ignorance about these decisions is deep and yet not easily discussed. Every program wants to believe that they have the “answers” to mental suffering, when, in fact, no one does. What we do know is that residential programs create a stressor at discharge which, for some, can send them right back to their original place of distress. For others, the discharge is a new beginning, where they feel grateful for a second chance at life. Likewise, keeping people at home, for some, allows them to reconfigure their lives slowly and carefully, avoiding the stress of discharge, whereas for others, the home environment is so toxic that staying there does not allow for reflection and growth. We, the mental health professionals, need to honestly say that we do not know what will help an individual, but with our experience, we can make a guess. The data are not in yet, so we rely on intuition, which is inherently flawed. That, my dear readers, is where we are at. Humility is not only important for healing, it is important for healers too.