Posted by Dr. Vollmer on November 27, 2014
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Despite resolving to set financial concerns aside until after the holi- days, fears of overspending keep gnawing at your mind. (I’ ll never pay off my credit card; I can’t afford the gifts my family wants.) “If you stuff a feeling down long enough, it’s going to come out—either in an explosion where you say or
do something you’ll regret, or an implosion of depression and feel- ing stuck,” says Gilbertson.
To get ahead of the worry, try describing the situation from the perspective of a third-person nar- rator like, Pressure to spend is forcing her to reexamine budget constraints. According to Shirah Vollmer, M.D., a psychiatrist in
Los Angeles, this prevents knee- jerk emotional reactions. “You’re ‘metabolizing’ the feeling. It starts off huge and looming, but narrat- ing helps break it down into small pieces that are easier to deal with.” From there, you can use this objec- tive mind-set to seek solutions.