Shirah Vollmer MD

The Musings of Dr. Vollmer

‘I Should Have Had A Manicure’

Posted by Dr. Vollmer on February 22, 2012

Thais, twenty-one, says “I should have had a manicure,” referring to her drunken stupor last evening. “The guy I liked was flirting with another girl, and I felt terrible, so I wish I had done something nice to myself instead of drinking too much,” Thais continues. “I like the fact that you can reflect on your behavior and see how you might handle that difficult situation in the future. That shows tremendous growth and development. I can see how your feelings were hurt and that you needed to numb them with alcohol, but I also hear that you can also deal with hurt feelings by being especially nice to yourself.” I say, reinforcing how much Thais has progressed in her thinking and reflection over her self-destructive behaviors. Sometimes, psychotherapy is so hopeful.

2 Responses to “‘I Should Have Had A Manicure’”

  1. Shelly said

    This post in particular made ME wish for the benefits of psychotherapy for myself. In the right, caring, working therapist-patient environment, the patient indeed can come to see how their behaviors are destructive and hurtful. Good job, Shirah, for this (fictional) successful patient account!

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